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Kick the year off with good intentions and resolutions in place \u2013 24 January 2019 is National Compliment Day. Let\u2019s start by giving the little ones that take up the most space in our hearts a compliment.

As an adult, receiving a compliment feels great. Imagine if your superhero (aka dad) or love of your life (mom, of course) gives you a compliment? Kids blossom when they feel loved and appreciated by their parents and caregivers. They will have improved self-esteem and more confidence when facing the challenges of life. As Mother Theresa once said, \u201cIf you want to change the world, go home and love your family\u201d. Living in a world of social media, pressure to perform and suicide numbers that are on the rise in younger children – we should be handing out compliments to our kids like Flings at a kid\u2019s birthday party!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How to give a compliment? <\/h4>\n\n\n\n

Start with inner qualities, such as honesty, their kind heart and determination, so that they strive to contribute to society in a meaningful way. Make sure it is positive and that you believe in what you say, they will know when it is not genuine. Be specific and consider your child\u2019s talents and strengths \u2013 what do you admire about your children? Often children receive compliment about what they are wearing or their appearance but they need to learn that they are worth so much than a cute bow or trendy outfit. Yes, they are definitely all beautiful \u2013 but they are so much more! Specific praise teaches them that their skills and abilities are important and will encourage them to do it more often. It will also prevent them from becoming \u201coverpraised\u201d and expect praise for everything \u2013 so the praise does not become common and lose its sparkle. Instead of just saying \u201cWell done\u201d, add a \u201con that colourful parrot you are drawing\u201d or \u201cfor sharing with your baby brother, he is lucky to have you as a big brother\u201d. As said in the movie, The Help<\/em> \u2013 \u201cYou is kind, you is smart, you is important.\u201d

For some parents and caregivers words don\u2019t come that easily \u2013 words of affirmation aren\u2019t everybody\u2019s strong point, and that is okay. Keep it sincere, look them in the eye, use their name and start with a simple phrase like:

Thank you for\u2026
I think you are\u2026
I am proud of you for\u2026
You are good at\u2026
You are\u2026
I like how you\u2026
You worked very hard at\u2026
You were a good friend when\u2026
Good job showing\u2026
It was nice of you to\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are 10 guidelines to complimenting your little ones: <\/h4>\n\n\n\n
  1. Start with their character<\/strong>
    Offer a sincere compliment when they show traits of honesty, reliability, perseverance and kindness. <\/strong><\/li>
  2. Compliment them for being part of the family<\/strong>
    They will feel loved and that they belong \u2013 confidence boost! <\/li>
  3. Compliment them when they contribute to the family<\/strong>
    When they feel appreciated and that their contribution does make a difference, they might just be more eager to help. <\/li>
  4. Respect and obedience<\/strong>
    It is so easy to just discipline \u2013 how many times have you said \u201cNo\u201d today\u2026 (toddlers aren\u2019t exactly a walk in the park, I know). Try to notice when they are doing the right thing and paying respect to the elderly or treating siblings with respect. <\/li>
  5. Pay them a compliment them when they have tried their best, but the end result isn\u2019t the best<\/strong>
    \u201cI am so proud of you for trying to build this complicated puzzle, let me help you finish the last few pieces\u201d. <\/li>
  6. When they do get it absolutely spot-on <\/strong>
    When your child gets a good report card or tidy his\/her room make sure to mention it and make a big deal of it.<\/li>
  7. When they express themselves through their unique style<\/strong>, make sure you compliment them even if you would have chosen a different outfit, way of setting the table or doing arts and crafts for example.
    \u201cYou really have a flair with these stamps and paint\u201d.<\/li>
  8. Compliment them while reaching the long-term goal <\/strong>
    \u201cYou are working really hard on this birthday card for your teacher, she will love it\u201d. <\/li>
  9. Give them a compliment when they achieve something new<\/strong>
    This could be just the motivation they need to persist.<\/li>
  10. Compliment their friends<\/strong>
    Make sure it is a sincere compliment<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    Giving your kids compliments from a young age will also help them give and receive compliments in the future, as this is not something that comes easily to most children. The ability to understand whether something might be a compliment or might be an insult to someone can really help children to make friends and keep them<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Activity<\/h4>\n\n\n\n

    We have added some compliment cards for you to print, cut out and hand out freely \u2013 add them to your child\u2019s lunchbox or sports bag. For the little ones that can\u2019t read yet, there is a list attached of 25 compliments that you can repeatedly build them up with.

    Download the compliment cards here.<\/a><\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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